| Dear Jane
Hypoactive sexual desire can happen at any age and some of the many causes can be attributed to stress, relationship problems, menopause and depression. You don’t sound like you have relationship problems but you are of an age where the menopause may be kicking in. If this is the case hormonal changes may be contributing to your lack of libido. The herbal tincture Vitex Agnus Castus has helped many people through this process so it may be worth a try. If this is the case take 5 mls in water every morning for the next three months to see if this will help you through this hormonal upheaval. This natural product has no side effects. Your Doctor may advise HRT but this is not something Homoeopaths would recommend. You don’t say if you have been under any stress lately, however holding down a part time job and looking after a husband and three children has its challenges. You must find time to take proper breaks during your day. I have talked about ultradian rhythms before in this column and readers may remember that every 90 minutes or so our cells need replenishing. At this time we need to stop for 5 to 10 minutes and turn inwards, shutting out the world while we focus on a good breathing rhythm and allowing our bodies to release tension. This simple exercise done regularly can go a long way to replenishing our energy and keeping our spirits high. Talk to your partner about how you feel and ask him to be take things slowly. Anxiety about performance and expectations that your partner may be losing patience will not help you feel relaxed and in the mood for those deep loving moments. There are a variety of potentised remedies such as Causticum, Sepia, Natrum Mur, Ignatia, Phosphorous Acid etc that could be helpful but in order to prescribe homoeopathically I would need to know a lot more about you. Give each other a Ylang Ylang essential oil massage and some gentle body caressing and see how you both feel. You don’t always need to have full sex to enjoy some wonderful intimate moments with each other. Best of Health |
