| Dear Jennifer
If you think that your happiness depends on what you think other people think about you then you’re on a hiding to nothing. It’s what you think about you that matters. Your happiness and your ability to allow yourself to be who you really are rest’s on the way you think about yourself. Remember you are a unique individual with your own life to live and all that happens to you has meaning even if you can’t always see it. So ask yourself what do you want? Make a list of your core values. What is really important to you? If you think being liked is important then learn to like yourself first. After all we tend to teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves so treat yourself well. If you feel you are a victim then someone might feel sorry for you and others might pity you but is that really enough? I don’t think so! Being self conscious is actually a very good thing if it’s interpreted correctly. It means you can be conscious of the way you feel, think and behave and that gives you an edge particularly if you can correct your mistakes without criticism. Start from the idea that regardless of your past experiences you can only be good enough as you are. That doesn’t mean you are not looking to improve your abilities and skills, who isn’t, but at this time you can only be good enough as you can be. Remember every moment is a new moment giving you another opportunity to start again. When you meet people be interested in them. Be concerned about how others feel, try and find something that interests you in what they are saying and ask them about it. As Goethe says "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being." If you try to help others feel good about themselves be assured you will feel good about yourself also. I recommend you take some Cerato Bach flower remedy for a while and see if this helps boost your confidence or maybe some White Chestnut as this helps you let go of persistent negative thoughts that can so easily go round and round in your head. Trust in your judgements and go for it. So what if you’re wrong now again, just because you have made a mistake doesn’t mean you are one!
Best of health |
